plan it

i find it really offensive when a so called friend doesn't want to make solid plans with you. it's fairly standard, you make plans and meet at a specified time and place. holding off on making plans may be a way out of blowing the person off on the day, but that does not necessarily make it a better alternative. although the intentions may be in the right place, it doesn't leave the recipient feeling all that fantastic. in fact, it's a little degrading.

unless there is a legitimate reason for a person's lack of ability to commit to a set plan, then from where i see it, they're questioning whether or not you're worthy of their time. essentially, "let's not plan till last minute" translates to one of the following: -

1. "yeah sounds good, but if something better comes up i might have to cancel on you"; or
2. "yeah sounds good, but if i'm too hung over to function i might have to cancel on you"; or
3. "yeah sounds good, but if i get lucky that night i most definitely will cancel on you"

i'd much rather spend time with people who appreciate my company, than waste it on someone who can't commit a mere two hours of their time to me. it's a give and take world my dear, there are social etiquettes that us civilised and considerate beings adhere to. perhaps you have achieved some sort of self-proclaimed higher authority where you have attained the ultimate power to treat people like shit without any repercussions, or you could just be an ass. my best bet would be the latter.

so here's my two cents, be the good friend that you claim to be, set a date and just um, oh i don't know ... show up? genius.

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